Naming and Noticing:
A moment of pleasant or calm.. a relaxed body.. a laugh in the belly.. when you took a deep breath to interrupt an agitation and it felt good. What is the sensation, does it move, is there a shape to it, where in the body does it most reside? What happens when we breathe into it and take refuge??
A problem invasion moment such as anxiety, worry, overwhelm. Where is it located in the body? If you breathe into it, does it respond in favor? What do you do to ‘unwelcome it’?
Naming the problem intrusions can invite a lessening of activation.. I liken that phenomena to how, when we name the bullying, it can offer us relief. Power-over tactics have more power when they are invisible and insidious. Naming it can disrupt the absence of consent and any harmful gaslighting effect, which can invite choice. Naming the intruders, can invite that ‘triple power resistance’ as described above. Naming the glimmers and free from problem times can support the remembering there are glimmers and breath opportunities.
Listening in to the Body Talking:
If the tears could talk? What more does it have to say? If the pain could just breath without the pressure of needing to be fixed or dissected? What is the sensation of that worry and how might it respond if we free it from the worry about worry or the anxiety about anxiety.. if we slow the thoughts and let the breath take the reins?
When we feel heard, it can feel reassuring, and once we acknowledge the somatic experience we can then remember it is also responsive. It is here we can deepen our neuroception discernment. Listening in to ‘more to the story’ beyond fear or shame or or the aversion to anxiety, supports remembering the counter terrain as a place we can revisit and makes the pathways to get there more readily accessible. Acknowledging and honoring the feelings provides access to what it might need. When we check in to this body of stories and sensations, we invite dialogue.
Leaning Towards the Light:
Resourcing the body is resistance, as it is saying no to the somatic problem activity and saying yes to a preferred felt experience, and this can debunk the problem bullying tyranny and reveal intimidation tactics and gaslighting entrapment. Getting to know better what is going on, as it is ‘safe’ to do, exposes the operating systems at play from a safe zone.. What is the ‘safe zone’ (Thank you HNC Client S)? How do we know when we are there and what are its borders? What supports us to return to the somatic safe zone? What supports it to root there? Does that body appreciate a soothing messages like “I’m ok… Its ok.. I can do this, I am worthy of calm..” Might the body be receptive to the vagus toning and somatic grounding that can be found with comforting movement like butterfly tapping and torso hug, generous deep breaths.. cold water on the wrists or face.. grounding.. calming that can come with vibration humming/ “vooooooo”/“om” sounds
Feeling is our way back from the confines of any entrapment, whether it be an abusive relationship, unhealthy career, or internalized oppression. Growing our discernment of what’s right, good and ok and exercising choice is the way forward to reclaiming the present and a preferred future.
Dear clients, I thank you for your trust and courage, and the opportunity your growth and recovery offers others and this work.
All my relations,